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So, most of my in-laws (there are a lot of them, as my husband is one of 10 kids!) are really nice people.  but we are very different people, and I find that I often feel like I can't be myself around them.  I hold back, I don't say the things I really think, even if asked, and I rarely feel comfortable around them.  I thought this would get better over time, but it's just gotten worse.  I feel more uncomfortable now than I did years ago, and I find myself pulling back.  For instance, over the labor day weekend, they planned a "work weekend" at my mother-in-laws (father-in-law passed away about 3 years ago, and she kept the farm, which means a lot of work all the time [work that my husband does most of since he is the only sibling that actually lives in the same town, which is another aspect of my issue as I find myself resenting her and him for all he does at the farm and does not do at our house]) and on Sunday, I stayed home.  I went out on Saturday and worked, and I went out on Monday and worked, but I just couldn't deal with them all three days in a row.
I'm very frustrated and unsure of what to do.  I feel like I'm being selfish sometimes, but at others I'm convinced I'm right.  Any advice?

Hi Beth and all the other "old timers"! Beth, I remember you from the early days of Relweb!  For some reason, something made me search for this site today. Gosh it's been soo long since I was last here! I can say it is really good to hear that life and relationships are brighter for you all these days. Congratulations on the baby arrivals HGL, Rubydoo (Hi Ruby!!) and Colleen! I have missed some huge milestones here it seems.

Life is so different for me these days too. I am well past the torture of lamenting an ex that brought me to these boards. I am very happy and secure in my relationship with a wonderful guy now. It wasn't easy getting here, but the main thing is, I got there in the end! Marriage and children are my future plans.. I am 36 now but life is so much better now than my insecure 20's and early 30's. And I learnt so much from these boards that this place will remain in my heart forever.

Much love to you all! xxx

Colleen,

Congratulation!  I bet you are totally ecstatic over Laila's arrival....Little girls are so much fun!!!  Hope you are healing well.

HGL

Awww she's adorable HGL

Well I am FINALLY a mommy!  Laila Katherine arrived on August 12, 7 Ibs 15 oz at 9:59 pm via c-section.  I will post pics once I upload them.

Colleen,

You look great as does the nursery...I love the tree on the wall!


Being induced can be a bit interesting...wow do I have stories about how loopy I got when then gave me something to easy the pain!!!

One thing that I didn't do the first few days being home was sleep when she did...that was a mistake because by the 7th night I was about to loose it because I was SOOOOOO tired...8 weeks of boot camp was a breeze compared to the fact that I was trying to do way to many things.  Let the others take care of you as your body will be going through a major adjustment.

Love to you and your arriving family!

HGL

ps...here's some of the latest pics of my little one....19 months in these photos!

Hi all,

Nothing new to update yet...lol  I'm patiently waiting for baby  I'm 39 weeks on Tuesday and if she doesn't come on her own, I will be induced Thursday due to the lovely gestational diabetes.  I'm pasting a link of my baby belly, so I think if you copy and paste it you should be able to see it

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs204.snc4/38543_10150239266575368_645325367_13928615_5989198_n.jpg

Isn't that a question you have to answer?  How important is sex to you, for whatever reason?  It does vary a lot from person to person.  Also, if you are talking about a longer term relationship, how important is sex to him.  Asking a guy is not always the best way of finding out.

I URGE you to talk to someone soon.

Your sister is being neglected and abused. No question about it.

The above poster is completely correct.

I see by your post you love your sister very much. Even more so since you have lost your mom.  I am sorry for your lost. I understand that.

Let that be a the motivation to help your sister.

Hugs and strength to you and your sister,
red

Hi Vega!

I have no clue how to post a picture.  I've been fiddling around and I don't see anywhere where you can do this in the reply portion.  Any ideas?

Colleen,

click on the "Additional Options" underneath the text box and you can attach files there.

Hope you are doing well with the pregnancy.

Hey all....

Just posting an picture from today....running around our yard, chasing bubbles.  She is 17 1/2 months old today....I can't believe it.

HGL